Recently, my friend Wendy Robbins asked me how I would advise someone who had just been faced with a difficult obstacle. For example, what if you've been laid off, or you've just had a parent die? Whatever the circumstance might be, how do you regain confidence so you can move forward again?

Well, honest to goodness, the thing I would recommend most is to keep reminding yourself of the self confidence formula, because it's all about the truth.

This self confidence formula of five points, plus a concluding paragraph that talks about honesty and integrity, positions a person to understand what they need to do, who they need to be, and how they need to go. And it ends with a place to sign it and date it, and the specific recommendation to repeat it every single day.

Here it is,pages 34 and 35.

"First. I know I have the ability to achieve the object of my definite purpose in life, therefore, I demand of myself persistent, continuous action toward its attainment, and I here and now promise to render such action.

"Second. I realize the dominating thoughts of my mind eventually reproduce themselves in outward, physical action, and gradually transform themselves into physical reality, therefore, I concentrate my thoughts for thirty minutes daily, upon thinking of the person I am becoming, creating in my mind a clear, vibrant, moving, exciting mental video of that person.

"Third. I know through the principle of auto-suggestion, any desire I persistently hold in my mind eventually seeks expression through some practical means of attaining the object back of it, therefore, I devote ten minutes daily to developing the self-confidence that empowers me to seek my largest dreams!

"Fourth. I have clearly written down a description of my definite chief aim in life, and I will never stop making it happen, even when I have developed self-confidence and the attainment of these riches.

"Fifth. I fully realize that no wealth or position can long endure, unless built upon truth and justice, therefore, I engage in no transaction, which does not benefit all whom it affects.

"I succeed by attracting to myself the forces I wish to use, and the cooperation of other people. I induce others to serve me, because of my willingness to serve others. I eliminate hatred, envy, jealousy, selfishness, and cynicism by developing love for all humanity, because I know that a negative attitude toward others can never bring me success. I cause others to believe in me, because I believe in them, and in myself.

"I hereby sign my name to this formula, date it, commit it to memory, and repeat it aloud daily, with full FAITH it gradually influences my thoughts and actions so I am a self-confident, self-reliant, successful person.

Signature / Date"

That's what I recommend most-get this self-confidence formula.

Perhaps the first several times you read through it, it won't be all there for you, but it will come if you keep after it and repeat it every day, every day, every every day! You should memorize it.

Sure, I know it's longer than what most adults are accustomed to memorizing. Well, you, my friend, are not like most adult persons-you're a person who has taken on a definite chief aim in life, with the specific intent to make the world better and to profit at a level that you set up in return.

Obviously you're willing to do stuff that normal people, average people, won't and don't do.

And profit like few others do.

When I told Wendy that, she said,

"Hmmmm. I've got a good smile on, because you're completely right-and it makes so much sense to just go back to that. Because when you said that, it was like it was solid, it was definite, it was commanding the universe, really, to work with you to make it happen. And that nothing could stop you.

"I mean, when you were saying that, I was like, 'Wow, woohoo!'"