Every relationship will be tested by quarrels, fighting, misunderstanding, misrepresentations, misinterpretations and so on. You need to understand that quarrel is not the end of your friendship. Quarrel is indeed a testing and stabilising instrument to make a relationship Stronger, so whenever one happens, allow it to make your relationship and not to mar it.

When you quarrel or fight with your friend or spouse, it is an opportunity to know each other more not to separate or cut ties. When you are misunderstood or misinterpreted, it is not a time to explode or get angry, it is a time to present your case in a way your spouse will understand you. Sometimes misunderstanding is not a willing event, it is mostly caused by faulty sense of judgment and difference in value system. When your spouse does not value what you hold in high esteem you need time to help him see how that really mean to you and with time he can just begin to appreciate that. Crying and shouting on him thinking that will help you gain his attention will sure make the situation go from bad to worse.

You need patience, understanding and true love to be able to overcome negative situations that quarrels produce. Another thing to really guide against is the tendency to tell everybody you meet on the way about what is happening in your relationship especially if it is a marriage relationship. Someone said, "every relationship is temporal except the marriage relationship which is supposed to be binding till death do the partners part. if you have a quarrel in your marriage (a relationship that is supposed to be permanent), will not be very unwise to seek counsel from somebody in a relationship which is supposed to be temporal? It is true that when we share our burdens with others, we often feel better, but the truth is that, these days many friends mis-direct each other to take wrong decisions that have led to the break up of many families. If your friend is a divorcee, he is not likely to give you a good advise concerning your marriage. You can tell your pastor and he is most likely to guide you in the right direction.

Do not let anybody deceive you, there is no friendship or marriage that does not experience these things. Families and relationships that stays together took it as a responsibility to work it out. If you will take it upon yourself as a responsibility from God to keep your relationship, you will experience a power from above helping you to make the best of your relationship.

I see GOD bless you and give you joy in your relationships in Jesus name. Be blessed and remain blessed.