Thinking about a break up with your boyfriend or girlfriend? There's a right way to do it and, as you can guess, a wrong way to go about a break up.
Let's get started with some of the wrong ways to break up with someone...
First off, you never want to break up with your boyfriend or girlfriend by text, phone or email.
It's rude, insensitive and tacky.
Next, DON'T - under any circumstances - break up with them in public.
This will just embarrass them to no end and you'll end up with an enemy for life.
Also, don't berate them when you break up.
Don't go over a huge list of why they aren't right for you.
Remember, you're trying to salvage as much of their self-esteem as is possible during a time of breaking up.
Of course, if your soon-to-be ex has a tendency to be violent, then use common sense.
If that's the case, then YES...
you will want to break up over the phone, through texting or email (or even in a VERY public place).
And if you really think your life is in danger, please be smart and alert the authorities of your local municipality.
Onward...
Now that we have the big "no,no's" out of the way, let's see what the RIGHT way to break up with someone is.
First thing you need to be is completely and totally honest.
That said, if you're looking for break up help because you've met someone else, then keep that part to yourself.
Why? Because chances are it's just going to hurt your ex even more.
Look at it this way - breaking up with them is hurtful enough to them.
Why add insult to injury? Second, plan in advance what you're going to tell your soon-to-be-ex.
Confrontation is never easy.
Especially when what you're going to say can be hurtful.
So know what you're going to say.
Stand your ground.
Be nice, but firm.
Tell them you're breaking up because you no longer think you're right for each other.
Analyze the reasons why you lose the love in your relationship.
Maybe you guys grew apart...
maybe you realized that you just aren't compatible...
maybe you just realize that the person you thought he or she was, isn't truly who they are.
Once you've gone through with the break up, make it a discipline not to contact your ex at all.
This includes them trying to contact you.
Ignore them.
This may sound cold.
But in reality, you're only helping them move on with their life, easier and faster than if you were talking to them and giving them a false sense of hope that you'll get back together.
You're going to hurt as well.
Break up is always hard for both parties.
During this time, it's wise to not get into any kind of relationship with someone else.
Rebound relationships usually never last.
Plus, you need time to heal.
No matter which way you slice it, breaking up is a tough thing to do.
But follow these do's and don'ts and this will be all the break up help you'll need.