Are you suffering those awful feelings in the pit of your stomach after being dumped? Are you shocked and hurt by your boyfriend's decision to end it all? Do you want him back? Here are a few things you can do to try and get him back.
So many people do what seems logical to get someone back, and send text messages, phone calls etc and even hang out in places where he is likely to show up.
This is something you should not do at any cost! It is behaving like a stalker and a little bit scary sometimes - and very off putting.
The problem is, you need him to come to you, not the other way around.
However, in your current state of high emotion, it's you that you need to take in hand and pay attention to.
You need to get a positive mental attitude if you are going to get your ex back.
So how do you do that? Well, there's a little trick that helps sometimes and it is this; Sit quietly with a pen and paper.
Think about all the good times you had together and write them down.
Include how you felt at the time.
Then think about the bad times you shared, in fact all these are shared experiences.
Write down how you felt then too.
Then write down all the things you wished you had said, not just when you broke up but also over the whole course of your relationship.
Taking all this information put it all down in a letter to your ex.
No matter how many pages, just write your ex a letter with all of this information in it.
Put it in an envelope and write his name and address on it, put a stamp on it.
Don't send it! I repeat, don't send it.
Instead take a match or lighter and burn it.
Watch it burn.
As you watch it, imagine that all the negativity, all the hurt and emotional heartache is also going up in smoke.
Everything negative in your life is now going up in smoke and flame.
After it's burnt, you now look on your life positively.
This is a choice.
When you feel negativity coming on, mentally reject it and replace it with something positive.
Also, don't allow others to be negative, either about you or your ex.
Think instead about the good times, the times that you were happy and believe that you will be again, because you will.
Build on the positives.
If your ex told you that you were a good listener for example, get a part time volunteer job with the Samaritans or similar.
This will reinforce the positives about your character.
At the same time, improve on your weaknesses.
If your ex complained that the house was a mess, make extra effort to keep it tidy, and ignore any negative thought that he could have done his bit to keep it tidy.
In this way you will build up your self belief and confidence.
Your ex will then start to see you as someone desirable, a real person who is making the most of their life.
Concentrate on the positive and turn previous weaknesses into strengths and you will be in an excellent position to get your boyfriend back.