Break ups are never easy.
When your love is missing from your life; the silence can be deafening.
You tend to wander around in circles, like a wingless bird.
You find it hard to think straight.
The only thing on your mind is get ex back.
You just want to get back together.
Many of us have made the same mistakes under the same stressful conditions.
Tip #1 - Do not beat yourself up about it.
What is needed is a change in behavior patterns.
Tip #2 - You should not wallow in self pity or get depressed.
It is difficult to cope as it is.
You suffer from low self esteem.
Your emotions are running riot.
You need to be on top of your game.
You need to contain your over-emotional behavior.
Tip #3 - Do not hide yourself away like some hermit and punish yourself unduly.
This does not work.
Some people try to eat their problems away.
Others do the opposite and try to starve themselves.
Others make themselves more depressed by dwelling on negative issues.
Tip #4 - You need to stop any feelings of desperation.
Take control and be empowered to end your own heartbreak.
Tip #5 - You must be confident; you must be able to think straight.
For those of you who find the prospect too daunting, there is an easy way, if you want to get back together.
You must know what do to be successful.
This method will show you how to turn your life around.
It will be a new person; a positive, outgoing, tactful and self confident person who has a proven plan aimed to get your Ex back.
Tip #6 - I sincerely suggest you get a fully laid out plan with steps to follow through that work.
You want to get back together with your Ex and these methods do work.
So do not do anything rash.
Like falling into the arms of the first person you meet.
When our defenses are down; anything can happen before we even know it.
This can harm every attempt to get ex back.
Tip #7 - Is a tough ask but the most important.
You must learn to let go.
You must agree to take a break and give your ex space to breathe.
Give yourselves both some time out.
You may panic and feel you need to keep in contact, but you must take a few steps back, in order to go forward.
There are several very good reasons that you must take this first vital step.
Firstly, it will save your relationship from any further harm.
Secondly, it will put you on a better footing to move forward to the next step.
Thirdly, it will give both you and your ex time to think clearly.
Time is the healer.
You must not keep ringing them non-stop, all hours of the day and night.
Stop calling them at their home all the time, on their Cellphone and at especially at work.
You will not endear yourself to your ex or their boss.
Do not text them continually.
Sleepless nights and putting your ex under more stress is a recipe for disaster.
This is like stalking.
Stop means: stop all contact.
Tip #8 - This is the biggie.
While this is happening you are actively taking part in life like you did before you moved in together.
Hook up again with everyone.
Visit and stay over with relatives and friends.
There are many people in the world who still love you, care about you and are fun to hang out with.
Your parents love you, Uncles, Aunts, Nieces, Nephews and many friends.
You merely tell everyone you have both agreed to give each other some space.
You both need to take some time out.
And it gives you a great chance to catch up with everyone and everything you have missed out on.
You also go out and meet new friends.
Go with friends and see that Show, Concert or Movie or Opera you been meaning to see for ages.
Take that trip to visit someone special you think smilingly about.
Have fun, grab your guitar and go downtown and jam or sing at the clubs.
Take part in Karaoke contests and win some prizes.
Go out dancing.
Go to the Library and Art Gallery.
You will find yourself open up to life, you will be busy shopping and you will enjoy a lot of it.
You start feeling good about yourself again and anything can happen.
This is all great advice and I do recommend you get a well laid out plan that has proven strategies.
Like those found in The Magic of Making Up.
These strategies are a blueprint to follow after you have had your timeout.
You must know what to say to your ex and what to follow through with to get Ex back.
There are also killer strategies based on self interest and curiosity.
Please, these emotional triggers are so powerful you must not abuse them.