Mending A Relationship: Don" t Just Let Go
Everyone struggles with their partners on keeping a relationship working. There's this common pattern that people tend to allow to just happen. At first you feel the strong sense of being in-love then you have fun and enjoy leisure times together. Later on you get moody due to some schedules then getting annoyed with one another's attitude and then end up fighting. Reoccurring patterns such as this could lead to ending a relationship.
You could get really pissed off or irritated and keep wondering why things won't go well between the two of you. All the blames and differences would be thrown to one another, and then mixed with paranoia then obsession. Isn't it true that most of the time conflicts are caused by simple things or issues that are just being exaggerated due to uncontrollable anger?
Why not take time to breathe and consider some of the following:
Constantly cherish the feelings that both of you have. Both of you still have that sincere love and care one another. Without feeling that love, then eventually you'll feel that there's really nothing to give for this relationship and for you. Love is the most important thing that both of you have.
Talk with your partner. I know you've tried it a dozen times but knowing the right way to communicate with one another is very essential. No need to be loud when having such disagreements.
Give it time. Don't make harsh decisions that could trigger lengthy and senseless arguments. If you could restrain yourself from arguing, let time pass to ease your minds and resolve those resentments, then do so.
Ask yourself of one another's boundaries. Both of you should know your boundaries. Where did it all start? Did you crossed over the boundary or did he/she? You should always keep this in mind and be humble to one another when it comes to boundaries. Be mature enough to be aware of what you are to do and what you are not.
Review the concerns of what they call "Give-and-Take" in a relationship. Avoid acting on impulse, especially when it comes to the "pride and differences" issue. Weigh things and reasons over. Ask yourself whether or not you did something to make things worse or complicated. Don't be dragged by too much emotion.
Trying to maintain a working relationship is never really a smooth ride over the river. It could be a bit rocky yet surely you'll be glad to reach the ocean. But you know it doesn't ends there. While storms are yet to come, allow the waves to bring you towards the shore and fix your boat.
Enjoy the times you'll have together, build your next journey and both of you will surely be able to endure the storm to come. You have things in common such as habits and personalities so thus differences, but that doesn't mean you will not be able to mend those differences. When things are getting rough in your relationship, you just have to listen and think then eventually the two of you will move on together.
You could get really pissed off or irritated and keep wondering why things won't go well between the two of you. All the blames and differences would be thrown to one another, and then mixed with paranoia then obsession. Isn't it true that most of the time conflicts are caused by simple things or issues that are just being exaggerated due to uncontrollable anger?
Why not take time to breathe and consider some of the following:
Constantly cherish the feelings that both of you have. Both of you still have that sincere love and care one another. Without feeling that love, then eventually you'll feel that there's really nothing to give for this relationship and for you. Love is the most important thing that both of you have.
Talk with your partner. I know you've tried it a dozen times but knowing the right way to communicate with one another is very essential. No need to be loud when having such disagreements.
Give it time. Don't make harsh decisions that could trigger lengthy and senseless arguments. If you could restrain yourself from arguing, let time pass to ease your minds and resolve those resentments, then do so.
Ask yourself of one another's boundaries. Both of you should know your boundaries. Where did it all start? Did you crossed over the boundary or did he/she? You should always keep this in mind and be humble to one another when it comes to boundaries. Be mature enough to be aware of what you are to do and what you are not.
Review the concerns of what they call "Give-and-Take" in a relationship. Avoid acting on impulse, especially when it comes to the "pride and differences" issue. Weigh things and reasons over. Ask yourself whether or not you did something to make things worse or complicated. Don't be dragged by too much emotion.
Trying to maintain a working relationship is never really a smooth ride over the river. It could be a bit rocky yet surely you'll be glad to reach the ocean. But you know it doesn't ends there. While storms are yet to come, allow the waves to bring you towards the shore and fix your boat.
Enjoy the times you'll have together, build your next journey and both of you will surely be able to endure the storm to come. You have things in common such as habits and personalities so thus differences, but that doesn't mean you will not be able to mend those differences. When things are getting rough in your relationship, you just have to listen and think then eventually the two of you will move on together.
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