Saving Your Marriage By Accepting the Obvious
Jerry Seinfeld to the rescue? Maybe.
The comedian has recently returned to television with a show called The Marriage Ref.
The premise is to have a celebrity panel give their observations on couples going through a particular problem in their marriage.
Afterwards a judge or in this case a marriage ref renders a verdict.
While people may balk at celebrities given marriage advice, in reality that might not be such a bad idea considering the problems many of them have experienced in a very public way.
Not to say such predicaments make them authorities.
Seinfeld himself explains it this way, "This is a comedy show.
We feel that laughing at yourself, laughing at your marriage, seeing other marriages that are in absurd situations is wonderful medicine.
" He may want to think about that considering many critics have excoriated the show as anything but funny.
The network has also pushed back the start date for season two so he may want to hold onto that idea of laughter being wonder medicine.
Yet to a degree he may be right.
Taking things too seriously is not healthy for any marriage.
Being able to laugh individually and together can be of great benefit to any couple.
Not only as great stress relief but also a bridge builder to any communication problems a husband and wife may be experiencing.
But what can help the laughter is understanding one thing which often means the difference between long term marital bliss and all out war in divorce court.
Something many of us all to often forget or choose purposely not to remember.
Nobody is perfect.
It's strange how we overlook our significant other's shortcomings during the courtship stage.
No doubt we see them but at this point in the relationship we just accept it as one of those endearing qualities which makes us love them even more.
Amazing how that can change after living under the same roof for a time.
Now it just flat out drives you crazy and you would do just about anything to "fix" their problem.
You can't.
Your spouse is the only one that can make that decision and the same goes for you as far as they are concerned.
Much to your surprise the glow of your perfection has dimmed a little in their eyes.
You and your spouse should always be looking to improve yourselves.
That's as it should be as long as you accept the fact that neither of you will ever be perfect.
The comedian has recently returned to television with a show called The Marriage Ref.
The premise is to have a celebrity panel give their observations on couples going through a particular problem in their marriage.
Afterwards a judge or in this case a marriage ref renders a verdict.
While people may balk at celebrities given marriage advice, in reality that might not be such a bad idea considering the problems many of them have experienced in a very public way.
Not to say such predicaments make them authorities.
Seinfeld himself explains it this way, "This is a comedy show.
We feel that laughing at yourself, laughing at your marriage, seeing other marriages that are in absurd situations is wonderful medicine.
" He may want to think about that considering many critics have excoriated the show as anything but funny.
The network has also pushed back the start date for season two so he may want to hold onto that idea of laughter being wonder medicine.
Yet to a degree he may be right.
Taking things too seriously is not healthy for any marriage.
Being able to laugh individually and together can be of great benefit to any couple.
Not only as great stress relief but also a bridge builder to any communication problems a husband and wife may be experiencing.
But what can help the laughter is understanding one thing which often means the difference between long term marital bliss and all out war in divorce court.
Something many of us all to often forget or choose purposely not to remember.
Nobody is perfect.
It's strange how we overlook our significant other's shortcomings during the courtship stage.
No doubt we see them but at this point in the relationship we just accept it as one of those endearing qualities which makes us love them even more.
Amazing how that can change after living under the same roof for a time.
Now it just flat out drives you crazy and you would do just about anything to "fix" their problem.
You can't.
Your spouse is the only one that can make that decision and the same goes for you as far as they are concerned.
Much to your surprise the glow of your perfection has dimmed a little in their eyes.
You and your spouse should always be looking to improve yourselves.
That's as it should be as long as you accept the fact that neither of you will ever be perfect.
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