Do Teens of Divorced Families Act Differently
So often the question is asked, do teens of divorced families act differently than their peers who are not from divorced families? The truth is, from my observations as an experienced educator, they do.
If teens of divorced families do act differently from their peers, then how do they exhibit actions that are different? Somehow, I can identify them as soon as they walk into my office or room.
You may not believe they act differently.
One reason why you might believe it is because most modern psychologists want you to believe this.
They teach their clients and write in their books that children from divorced families act no differently than teens from regular families.
I could share statistics with you that would blow your mind! However, the only one I will share is this: in a fatherhood initiative class of 19 inmates, 70% said their father wasn't in the house.
Going on from that statistic and when I would ask these teens about their families their reply usually went something like this, "I live with my mother/father, and my step-mother/father.
" I knew it before I asked the question.
As a general rule, teens of divorced partners gravitated to me.
I could only assume that I represented a stabilizing factor in their lives.
It just seemed that these teens came to me with specific cries for help.
Maybe that's how I could identify.
Maybe it wasn't who they were, but it was the specific needs they had: --a friendly face --a person that represented security --someone to whom they could trust --an anchor for a young ship that they felt was nearly sinking I know! Family experts and family psychologists tell a different story.
However, I doubt that they spent 27 years of observing teens from different aspects of their lives: 1.
grades affected by their home life 2.
friends to whom they cling as though their lives depended on them 3.
destructive habits such as drugs or alcohol 4.
easily led into sexual activity So yes, teens of divorced families do act differently.
Many of their traits are identifiable.
Perhaps if you are a parent of a divorced teen, you might wish to identify some of these traits so you can help your teen succeed.
If teens of divorced families do act differently from their peers, then how do they exhibit actions that are different? Somehow, I can identify them as soon as they walk into my office or room.
You may not believe they act differently.
One reason why you might believe it is because most modern psychologists want you to believe this.
They teach their clients and write in their books that children from divorced families act no differently than teens from regular families.
I could share statistics with you that would blow your mind! However, the only one I will share is this: in a fatherhood initiative class of 19 inmates, 70% said their father wasn't in the house.
Going on from that statistic and when I would ask these teens about their families their reply usually went something like this, "I live with my mother/father, and my step-mother/father.
" I knew it before I asked the question.
As a general rule, teens of divorced partners gravitated to me.
I could only assume that I represented a stabilizing factor in their lives.
It just seemed that these teens came to me with specific cries for help.
Maybe that's how I could identify.
Maybe it wasn't who they were, but it was the specific needs they had: --a friendly face --a person that represented security --someone to whom they could trust --an anchor for a young ship that they felt was nearly sinking I know! Family experts and family psychologists tell a different story.
However, I doubt that they spent 27 years of observing teens from different aspects of their lives: 1.
grades affected by their home life 2.
friends to whom they cling as though their lives depended on them 3.
destructive habits such as drugs or alcohol 4.
easily led into sexual activity So yes, teens of divorced families do act differently.
Many of their traits are identifiable.
Perhaps if you are a parent of a divorced teen, you might wish to identify some of these traits so you can help your teen succeed.
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