Being the Perfect Dad
Got a bug in your mind that makes you think you can be a perfect dad? Squash it.
There is no way to be the perfect father- or brother or son or basketball player or, well, anything.
There are some things that you can do to be the best dad that you can be.
Here are some suggestions: 1.
Be available to your child.
Although work issues may take you away from always having time to be with your children, be sure that the time you do spend with them is focused.
Put down the television remote.
Give your child the gift of looking them in the eye when you speak together.
For many men, we are used to the art of half-listening with one eye on the television and one eye on our kid as they are talking.
At first, your child will probably put up with this.
As they get older, they will learn you are not really listening and they will quit trying.
The next time you are with your child, mentally ask yourself, "Who has my mind right now?" The "best dad" is fully focused on his child as they speak or spend time together.
2.
Make your child's needs your priority.
This is often hard for new dads to understand.
It is important to remember that your child's childhood is a stage.
It will be over before you know it and you will wonder why time went so fast.
So, make your child the priority even it means listening to the same old preschool songs repeatedly or missing a night-out with the guys to be with a pre-teen suffering through her first breakup with a puppy-love boyfriend.
The "best dad" puts his kids first.
3.
Model the behavior you want.
Your children are always watching you.
If you want your children to behave in a specific manner, then you need to model (demonstrate) that behavior.
If you do not want your child to throw excessive tantrums, then you need be sure that you act with control when you are angry or frustrated.
If you want your newly-licensed teenager to drive with caution, be sure you are modeling that for many years before they get the keys.
The "best dad" leads by example and not just words.
4.
Ask for help when you need it.
Nearly every dad has some questions about child rearing.
If you are unsure about a situation, seek out advice from the other men in your family who are dads.
Read parenting books to get up-to-date with current knowledge about child development.
Submit a question to an online-parenting group.
You will discover that there are many dads-only websites to help you through your issues- and they are usually full of humor and fun written by dads for dads.
The "best dad" knows when to seek out help and advice.
You will never be the perfect dad.
We all err and make some dumb mistakes with our children.
However, you can also make choices to be best dad possible.
Take the time to make your kids your genuine focus in your life, seek out knowledge when you need to know more.
Be sure to remember your child is always watching you to see what a real adult acts like.
The "best dad" is there inside of you.
There is no way to be the perfect father- or brother or son or basketball player or, well, anything.
There are some things that you can do to be the best dad that you can be.
Here are some suggestions: 1.
Be available to your child.
Although work issues may take you away from always having time to be with your children, be sure that the time you do spend with them is focused.
Put down the television remote.
Give your child the gift of looking them in the eye when you speak together.
For many men, we are used to the art of half-listening with one eye on the television and one eye on our kid as they are talking.
At first, your child will probably put up with this.
As they get older, they will learn you are not really listening and they will quit trying.
The next time you are with your child, mentally ask yourself, "Who has my mind right now?" The "best dad" is fully focused on his child as they speak or spend time together.
2.
Make your child's needs your priority.
This is often hard for new dads to understand.
It is important to remember that your child's childhood is a stage.
It will be over before you know it and you will wonder why time went so fast.
So, make your child the priority even it means listening to the same old preschool songs repeatedly or missing a night-out with the guys to be with a pre-teen suffering through her first breakup with a puppy-love boyfriend.
The "best dad" puts his kids first.
3.
Model the behavior you want.
Your children are always watching you.
If you want your children to behave in a specific manner, then you need to model (demonstrate) that behavior.
If you do not want your child to throw excessive tantrums, then you need be sure that you act with control when you are angry or frustrated.
If you want your newly-licensed teenager to drive with caution, be sure you are modeling that for many years before they get the keys.
The "best dad" leads by example and not just words.
4.
Ask for help when you need it.
Nearly every dad has some questions about child rearing.
If you are unsure about a situation, seek out advice from the other men in your family who are dads.
Read parenting books to get up-to-date with current knowledge about child development.
Submit a question to an online-parenting group.
You will discover that there are many dads-only websites to help you through your issues- and they are usually full of humor and fun written by dads for dads.
The "best dad" knows when to seek out help and advice.
You will never be the perfect dad.
We all err and make some dumb mistakes with our children.
However, you can also make choices to be best dad possible.
Take the time to make your kids your genuine focus in your life, seek out knowledge when you need to know more.
Be sure to remember your child is always watching you to see what a real adult acts like.
The "best dad" is there inside of you.
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