There are not a lot of people who purposely look to date other people who have low self esteem and a negative self image.
In other words no one likes a whiner.
Coming across as a confident yet caring person will make you much more desirable in the world of online dating.
Here are some ideas to help boost your confidence so that it shows in everything you do.
First off make a list of all your least desirable attributes.
Those things you just don't like about yourself or that other people have mentioned.
Once you do that you have a good starting point to begin your confidence makeover.
Start with the small things first.
These are the most easily fixed and if you knock off the easy stuff first this will boost your confidence naturally.
For most people how they look is their primary concern.
We live in a very image conscious society.
If this is the case take an inventory of those features you are most worried about.
Is it your hair; would a new hairstyle or just a haircut clean things up a little.
Maybe some new clothes that accentuate your good points and hide those parts of you you aren't so happy with.
Just looking good can do a lot of good for anyone's confidence levels.
Another good place to work on low self esteem is with lifestyle changes.
Eating a healthy diet, exercising and losing that weight you have always wanted to lose can make a big difference when you begin your foray into dating.
You will be more energetic and just feel good about yourself which will show in your renewed self confidence.
If there is an activity or hobby you have always been interested in now may be the perfect time to start doing it.
Having fun with daily life will come through in daily conversations or during chat sessions on the web.
It will also give you something fun and interesting to talk about.
If you learn to enjoy the small things in your life the bigger issues may not seem so bad after all.
The point here is that being confident in the online dating arena is an out growth of being confident with who you are and your life.
Your great outlook and high self-esteem will naturally come through in everything you do, including when you interact with potential dates on the membership sites.
One last thing to remember when it comes to dating, either online or in the real world.
You will need to accept the fact that some people will not be interested in you.
Do not let this get you down.
For every person that says no there are probably more that will say yes and will be interested in getting to know you.
As you interact with more people your confidence level will increase.
Just keep doing the things that make you happy and this will show through in everything you do.