Lydia pulled the lace panties out of the drawer in the closet and slipped on the matching bra.
Glancing at herself in the mirror, she thought, "This ought to get Phil's attention!" She waltzed into the bedroom and climbed into bed next to him, pulled up the covers and waited.
He was lying next to her, reading his American history novel.
Surely he would notice that she was scantily clad.
She waited for the question about why she had come to bed when he did, instead of cleaning up the kitchen or doing another load of laundry.
She waited and waited, and finally, hearing him snoring, turned off the light and tried to go to sleep herself.
While research demonstrates that married couples are topping the charts in the "frequency" category, still nearly one-third to one-half of couples experience sexual difficulties of some sort during some stage of their marriage.
This article gives a few simple tips for wives of any age to apply to begin to garner results.
Tip #1: Have the Right Expectations - Of the nearly 50% of women who experience something referred to as "low drive," many of them can still enjoy sex if they will simply not expect to physically feel aroused until they have started foreplay, or even well into intercourse.
Recognizing that nearly 70% of women do not have orgasms from intercourse alone and taking the time to play with your partner takes some of the pressure off, as well.
Be realistic, however, and remember that some 30% of men experience "low drive.
" That means that your gift to him may be less frequent pursuit, or a gentle, longer foreplay to help him get in the mood.
Tip #2: Know Confidence is Sexy - Lydia's husband might have reacted differently if she had done just one little extra thing...
perhaps dragging her finger down his shirt sleeve and asking him, "Want to play?" might have gotten his attention in a way subtlety would not.
Be clear, be confident, and go for it! If the response received is one of shock or "I'm tired," try again in the morning.
Men's levels of testosterone are highest in the morning, typically.
Men are also quite visual, and your own nudity will help with arousal for both of you.
If you are subconscious about your weight, know that most men are still physically interested in their wives if they are making efforts toward losing weight by exercising and eating right.
Tip #3: Don't Wait for Him - The drippy faucet in the bathroom, the broken doorknob on the back door, the short list of "honey-do's" that never seem to get done...
many wives seem to respond to these "inactions" by withholding sex.
Instead, try what sex-expert Michelle Weiner-Davis has seen work over and over again - initiate by leaving sexy notes, flirting with him, pursuing him physically, and see what happens.
In her "sex challenges" to wives, she hears repeatedly that these husbands turn around and start being more loving and more responsive - and there's a lot of lawns that start getting mowed as a result, too! Bottom Line: Men thrive on feeling admired and physically attractive to their wives.
Conduct your own challenge, pursue your husband and see if things in your marriage don't start to change over time! By Nina Roesner