The thing about depression is that the behaviour it produces can be very unsavoury and if the people around the depressive do not understand it it can be difficult all round for all concerned.
Managing depression is no mean feat.
Depressives can be curt, rude, aggressive or avoid people all of which can be quite hurtful.
But it must be understood that it is not a depressive's will on the whole to hurt people, it is usually just a desire to be left alone whilst the grey cloud is hanging over their world, speaking from experience.
When you are in depressed mode you are too lethargic and disinterested to be able to articulate wisely on the difficulties of depression to family members and friends.
Hence instead a great deal of poisonous bile might come out instead! The Thing To Do? Leave them alone.
Particularly if they have asked you to do so.
Don't try to be the hero - this is not the time.
Depression is not just feelings of sadness, it is a recognized illness that apart from making the person, tired, low, sullen, lose appetite or eat more, it can also drain them of hope which can lead to suicide.
Many people do not realize how a hope for a better tomorrow keeps a person going.
The hope that the children will do well at school.
The hope that you may do well at work and be given a promotion or pay rise.
the hope of finding a good partner.
The hope of winning the lottery! When you have depression you are stripped of hope completely.
There literally is no tomorrow.
If there is no tomorrow, ultimately there is no hope.
The Thing To Do? Do your best as the depressive or family member of a depressive to sit it out or seek treatment that will take the edge off.
It is not true that there is no hope, it is the brain playing tricks and making it seem that way.
Remember that it will not last.