So you have decided that you are getting a divorce, have you decided what you are going to do next? You may or may not have consulted a lawyer.
You need more than a lawyer to succeed in the divorce process.
You need a support system.
In your support system, you should have friends, family, a financial person, and a counselor.
Friends and family all love you.
Going through a divorce will really show you who your true friends are.
Some friends and family can give great advice and others can give horrible advice.
At the end of the day you have to weigh the advice and follow the advice that is best for you.
When you include someone in your support system, the person needs to want to listen to you and not try to always solve the problem.
You will experience many emotions and you will someone to experience the emotions with you.
Talking will sometimes help you to analyze and process the situations.
Also the person needs to be available to you.
You will need a good person who is available to listen when you are ready to talk.
Sometimes you will want to talk at all hours of the day.
Since divorce can be costly, it is recommended that you have a financial person evaluate your situation.
A part of divorce is to separate a joint household into two separate households.
After living with someone and then living on your own takes planning.
For some, they experience financial ruins.
If you are not able to add a financial person to your support system, the very least you should do is take a financial class or read books about finances.
The counselor could be a lay or professional person.
You can get recommendations from friends and family.
Each counselor has a different philosophy about divorce.
You want to investigate the counselor's position of divorce.
Some believe divorce is wrong in all instances and make people feel guilty for going through the divorce process.
You want the counselor to help you with your emotional process rather than hurt your emotional process.
Having a support team is very important for divorce recovery.
In addition to your friends, family, financial person, and counselor, there are several great resources.
Many books have been written about the divorce process.
You can also find websites online devoted to it.
Getting divorce can be difficult, but with a support system it is bearable.