Want to Get Back Together With Your Spouse? Maybe a Marital Checkup Will Help
Want to know how to get back together with your spouse? Evidently things you have been trying have not been working.
Perhaps you need a marital checkup.
Here are six areas of marriage that you can check up on, and some suggestions for dealing with those areas where you fall short.
1.
Check up on how you are doing on "leaving.
" When you get married, you need to leave your father, mother, past relationships, and past baggage.
If there is something in the past that you did not let go of, work really hard on leaving that behind you.
2.
Check up on your commitment to "overcoming.
" Are you giving in too easily? Are you willing to face and work through adversity? Acknowledge your part of the problem, but encourage your spouse to work through things with you.
3.
Check up on your encouragement.
Have you belittled your spouse, or do you feel that your spouse has belittled you? Resolve to seek forgiveness (but do it in the right way) and to become more encouraging if you are the one who has hurt the other.
4.
Check up on your intimacy.
If you really want to get back together with your spouse, realize the importance of your husband's need for physical intimacy if you are the wife.
Realize the importance of your wife's need for affection if you are the husband.
If there are problems in this area, tackle them instead of running away from them.
5.
Check up how well you have met your spouse's needs.
Again, if you identify areas where you have been insensitive, be willing to apologize, but also begin a program of self-improvement in this area of marriage.
6.
Check up on your giving.
If you have been the one "always to give in," learn to set boundaries.
If you have been the one "never to give in," learn how to give.
Develop a genuine giving heart, and watch things improve in your relationship.
Those are six techniques that will help you get back together with your spouse.
You may agree with them, and yet you say, "Yes, but how?" Are their correct ways to apologize? Is there a more productive way to ask for a second chance? Are their techniques that will strengthen you as a person and make you more attractive to your spouse? The answer to all of these is, "Yes!"
Perhaps you need a marital checkup.
Here are six areas of marriage that you can check up on, and some suggestions for dealing with those areas where you fall short.
1.
Check up on how you are doing on "leaving.
" When you get married, you need to leave your father, mother, past relationships, and past baggage.
If there is something in the past that you did not let go of, work really hard on leaving that behind you.
2.
Check up on your commitment to "overcoming.
" Are you giving in too easily? Are you willing to face and work through adversity? Acknowledge your part of the problem, but encourage your spouse to work through things with you.
3.
Check up on your encouragement.
Have you belittled your spouse, or do you feel that your spouse has belittled you? Resolve to seek forgiveness (but do it in the right way) and to become more encouraging if you are the one who has hurt the other.
4.
Check up on your intimacy.
If you really want to get back together with your spouse, realize the importance of your husband's need for physical intimacy if you are the wife.
Realize the importance of your wife's need for affection if you are the husband.
If there are problems in this area, tackle them instead of running away from them.
5.
Check up how well you have met your spouse's needs.
Again, if you identify areas where you have been insensitive, be willing to apologize, but also begin a program of self-improvement in this area of marriage.
6.
Check up on your giving.
If you have been the one "always to give in," learn to set boundaries.
If you have been the one "never to give in," learn how to give.
Develop a genuine giving heart, and watch things improve in your relationship.
Those are six techniques that will help you get back together with your spouse.
You may agree with them, and yet you say, "Yes, but how?" Are their correct ways to apologize? Is there a more productive way to ask for a second chance? Are their techniques that will strengthen you as a person and make you more attractive to your spouse? The answer to all of these is, "Yes!"
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