Finally, pause to consider if there really is nothing wrong with what the person has to say. The problem just might be that it is a sensitive topic for you or you actually have an issue with the person and not the advice. Sometimes as parents, we have our self-defense mechanisms in place. We might be frustrated at the behavior of our children, and so we put our guards up high. Additionally, we might feel as if our in-laws always are critizing us. Suddenly, every comment that is made we turn into a daggar that cuts to our heart.

Respond: Listen With Your Mouth Closed

If you know you are defensive, you might want to listen. Just listen, without feeling like you have to justify your parenting choices. If it continues, simply being honest can help diffuse the situation. Verbalize that this is a topic over which you are feeling a bit sensitive, or let her know you need to hear encouragements rather than her suggestions.

The next time you find the steam rising inside you as you listen to what you perceive is a critique of your parenting abilities, before you do anything, reflect on the situation. By taking the time to think before you react, you might actually find some helpful insights and avoid an unnecessary confrontation.